Unleashing our inner wildness

25/04/2014 § 7 Comments

Here’s something I wrote last night, to help promote a workshop I am co-facilitating in London on Saturday – I quite like it so thought I would share it here…

Remember how it felt to be a child, running free in the woods, through the fields, exploring, playing, joyful. Can you remember before that time, when as a baby you could just be yourself, free to express all you felt, to wail, to giggle uncontrollably, to love freely and unconditionally.ele and girl 2

We talk of “nature” as if it were somewhere else, out there, something to be fenced in and protected, ignoring the fact that we have come from, are part of and intimately connected to her.

We talk of “the wild” as if it is something a long way from our homes. found only in places beyond human influence. Yet wildness runs through all of us – we have just lost touch with this energy. In our rush to control and manage the non-human world, we have managed and suppressed our own wildness, an essential part of what makes us human. A sacred part.

Perhaps we are scared of what might happen if we unleash our inner wildness. What might we say or do? Quit that job? Drop that unhealthy relationship? Dare to tell someone close to us we love them. Stand up for what we believe rather than pretend to believe in nothing. That uncontrolled aspect of ourselves is at once scary and deeply thrilling.

You don’t have to leave the city to reconnect with your inner wildness. You just need to find a safe space, one where you can give yourself permission to let go, even just for a moment or two, and see what it feels like. It can be tremendously healing, exhilarating and deeply stirring.

This is the space that we offering to you on Saturday 10th May in the semi-wild surroundings of Hackney City Farm. We may dance, scream, hug each other, do some crazy painting, meditate or just sit quietly and appreciate each others’ presence. Who knows what may appear as we invite our aliveness, our fullness, into the space. https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/journey-into-mastery-tickets-9772889977

Wherever you may be when reading this, the invitation is there to tune into your inner wildness right now. Because you are worth it 🙂

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§ 7 Responses to Unleashing our inner wildness

  • Manley Talks New says:

    Hurrah

    Yours aye Manley 00447958654776 http://www.manleytalks.com

    Sent from my iPhone – which is why it is so brief! Hurrah

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  • Steve says:

    Hi Patrick,
    I came across your blog about a year ago and read with interest your thoughts. I enjoy reading your perspectives. So, let me say first of all I am a fan. I have never written because I am busy, I am american, 56 years old and have spent the last 23 in West Africa.

    This concept of unleashing inner wildness has me a bit uneasy. Your description in this blog has this inner wildness trending towards everything that is personal and good. I completely understand this. But lets take a look at some others aspects of unleashing the wild side. 25 years ago I did research for counseling children who had been subject to sexual abuse be adults who were unleashing their wild side. I found that the results were devestating to the youngsters and those who never received proper counseling went on to penitenteries. Back in the 80s nearly 70% of inmates surveyed were victims of sexual abuse as minors. And while we are on kids, the child porn industry is men and women in the wild and perverted side of those who judge these acts completely normal. Lets look at the releasing the wild side of those who abuse people in sex trafficking and capture young people by hopes and promises of success and a future only to strip them of their identity (their actual legal documents), isolate them from family, and threaten them with death should they escape. Then there is the wild side of every repressive political regime in the world today, who often take a seat at the UN, the center of civility, The leaders and their cronies sit in the lap of luxury while the population must bribe and go against their moral fiber to get the basic of things like a drivers licence, building permits, etc. But lets not stray too far from home, I am american and I am assuming you are british. What does the wild side of our politicans accomplish in order to stay in office. The opposing factors dig up all sorts of things, like a stupid remark a candidate said when he was in his second year at university. The wild side lets politicians wives and children be the brunt of criticism when a dad and husband is running for office. And yes, the wild side says anything and everything is open game, so attacks on character are publicized and encouraged. These paid political announcements run on the networks while the candidates smile and go to a debate, and the media wild side wants to be the first to declare who one.

    I think your concept of unleashing our inner wildness is a genuine, sincere, idea for trying help people to be able to express themselves freely.

    But in the world in which we live today, in 2014, all that is bad, all that hurts, all that abuses, all that insults, all that creates injustice, all attacks, is a result of one person or many people releasing their wild side.

    Thanks for considering my knee jerk reaction.

    Steve

    • Dear Steve

      thanks for your no doubt heartfelt response. I love getting comments that make me reflect!

      You are right, I am British and was brought up in a pretty safe, predictable, not at all wild family environment that I am constantly grateful for. I did ok in my exams and ended up as a lawyer, working in a not at all wild environment of large corporations. When I left the corporate world, in large part driven out by my conscience, I found that I could barely think for myself any more. I was so used to following the rules. So I forced myself to cycle through my local park, which was against the rules, just to see for myself what it felt like to be a rule breaker.

      There is a wild part in all of us, I am convinced. I would say it is not good nor bad – it just is. If we suppress it (and I believe most of systems are designed for that) then it is likely to break out in unpredictable, harmful ways. You have given plenty of examples of what can go wrong when people’s wild side bursts out uncontrollably. I think of someone I know well, an artist who in order to conform and to provide for his family has carried on work that he is not well suited for. After many years of this he is self-destructing, threatening his own health and the well-being of his family. It seems to me that if he had provided an outlet for his wild side years ago (perhaps by doing a different job, or doing it differently, or perhaps by painting or writing or some form of artistic expression) he would have “managed his symptoms” effectively and would have avoided this crisis. It is by denying our “wild side” that we refuse to give it proper place and it breaks out. By denying that anyone has racist thoughts we ensure that the Klu Klux Klan (or British National party or whatever) will exist. In homeopathy (which my wife practises), one of the underlying principles is to avoid suppressing disease (which drives it deeper, only to be expressed in different, more harmful ways) but to draw it out.

      I admit that it is challenging to work with the wild side. But for myself I feel I have to start by acknowledging it exists so that then I can work with it and draw on what is good, creative, alive about it. So I am running a workshop where we can, in a facilitated space, work with art, music, meditation and other practices to explore that side (relatively) safely. It is not without risks but I feel it is far more risky to simply label “wild” as “wrong” and try to clamp down on it. And when I do access my wild side (and one place I do is this blog) it makes me feel alive, without harming others.

      Does that make any sense?

      Patrick

      • Steve says:

        Patrick,

        I think it would be good to give a clear definition of the inner ”wild side”. I have read you here and the advertisement for your workshop and all that I read dances around a clear-cut definition. In terms which I can identify, I am thinking you are talking about one’s intellect, will, talents, spirituality, and emotions. Would that be correct? Or, are you including in your concept something other than this or not this at all.

        You spoke of the ride in the park which is prohibited. I grant you this is not a major crime or inconvenience to anyone. But how does this willingness to go against simple society standards, which are put in place for the common good, and for common society goals, for the common good of the populace, benefit all of society. Perhaps it does benefit you, but at what cost to others. How does your willingness to bend the rules inconvenience the individual who would never impose upon his neighbor by breaking the rules?

        Also you stated, ”By denying that anyone has racist thoughts we ensure that the Klu Klux Klan (or British National party or whatever) will exist.”

        I have no idea what this means.

        Here one needs to define racism and racist thoughts. I would say that most if not all humanity has a bit of racism. We tend to like people who speak like us, look like us, think like us, talk like us, and have the same world view, etc and we have a tendency to suspect people who are different from us. But, we control this and say, someone is different but he-she has great value in society and by thus doing we overcome our personal racism. In fact we can celebrate the differences!! I don’t know who the BNP is but being american I know the KKK (and by the way I an white-cherokee indian decent). The KKK is motivated by an world view of superiority and hatred. Their thought of superiority is absolute nonsense and the hatred they possess is completely unacceptable by our world standards.

        I think personally, we all are a bit racist. But does this control us or do we control it.

        Thanks for listening.

        Steve

      • Hi Steve, thanks for this. It seems indeed that you and I have a different understanding of wild. I am using the term fairly loosely – so yes, it encompasses creativity, spirit. I am not sure if I include emotions – I believe with practice these can be managed or tamed whilst I don’t believe our essential spirit ever can be.

        I agree with quite a lot of what you say. What I meant about the KKK and BNP was that so long as we label certain parts of us as “bad”, and try to suppress them or ban them, they will inevitably spring out in some other way. Whereas if we acknowledge that they are part of us, we can work with them in a healthy way. I agree that we are all a bit “racist”, in the sense that you put it – that we feel more comfortable with people who look like us, sound like us, act like us. This is normal. Yet society (at least British society) tries to make this bad or wrong, and a lot of people in prominent positions try to pretend that they are not racist. This doesn’t make these attitudes go away – it merely ensures that they show up in harmful ways – e.g. in political parties whose fundamental attitude is racist. I don’t believe the KKK would need to exist if we could simply acknowledge that it is normal to feel this way. At the same time we should make it clear that we need to work to go beyond our own racism if we are to learn and grow (I always learn and grow when I encounter other cultures).

        Of course it can be both scary and dangerous to simply follow our spirit. And I believe the main reason society tries to squash these impulses is because it can be disturbing to an orderly society if people simply do what they feel like at any time. So we do need a certain maturity to learn to acknowledge our impulses and to be able to discern which ones are healthy and which ones destructive. Cycling through my park slowly and watchfully is perfectly safe – cycling at top speed is dangerous. Society could do a better job of acknowledging that these impulses are normal and finding ways of letting people express them healthily.

        My feeling is that our society puts too much emphasis on order and comfort, and puts too much energy in suppressing people’s spirit. We collectively put too much trust in those in power and too little trust in our own creativity and spirit. This is preventing us responding to massive challenges such as climate change, resource scarcity, rising social inequality and economic volatility.

        This is what Debbie and I want to explore – can we access our wilder spirit safely and constructively, for the good of all?

        Does that make more sense?

        Patrick

  • Steve says:

    Patrick, That makes sense!!! Thanks for the time and the clarification. I am not sure I accept all your premise on this one, but I understand your, can I say, ”Inner wildness” world view. Thanks for your discussion. Looking forward to your next post. Steve

  • Steve says:

    How did the workshop go yesterday? Did you feel you were able to comunicate and lead your attendees to you proposed points?

    Steve

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